Have a relationship with God
The foundation of a good marriage is one that includes God. Our pastor made a great statement: You dont know who you are, until you know who God is. If we get our identities from our past, our occupations, our families or our spouses, then our marriages will be much more difficult than they have to be. Everybody knows that line from the movie Jerry Maguire where Tom Cruise says You complete me. Well, thats just bogus. I cant complete my beautiful wife and she cant complete me. We can complement each other, we can each bring different strengths to the marriage, but I have to know who I am first . And I really cant figure out who I am until I have an understanding of the person who created me.